Why is it so hard to find a good man to build a future with?

Finding a good man to build a future with is really hard to do. It is as hard as finding a woman to build a life with. If you're wondering why, the following are some reasons:

1. The law of attraction. It says that you attract the kind of person you are. If you are the kind of person who is goal-driven, responsible, and ambitious, there's a tendency that you will find the same kind of person as your life partner. However, if you are the exact opposite, you are lucky enough to find the ideal person. But building a good future with the one you love is not based on good luck, it is based on how you build a good foundation within yourself.

2. Wrong place. You look for that person at the wrong place. If you want to build a future with a person who is of the same profession as you are, then find that person in the same office or place where you work at perhaps you have something in common. There's a big chance you can probably meet that person at the same office, seminars or universities too and not at the bars or cheap hangouts.

3. Wrong timing. To establish a good future with an ideal partner, good timing is primary thing to consider. Some couples decide to live together by impulse and not because both of them are financially and emotionally ready for it. So they ended up with arguments and sometimes breakups.

4. Upbringing. It is very crucial to check the background and upbringing of the person you wish to share everything with. One can't give if one doesn't have. If you partner came from an abusive family background, there's a tendency that unresolved family issues will be brought up in the relationship. It is a hindrance to build a good future. Nurture is important over nature.

5. Low standards. You can't expect a guava tree to produce apples. What I meant here is that, when you have a very low standards of the person you'd like to be with for the rest of your life, don't expect that your high expectations will be met at the end when in the first place you hadn’t had set the bar high. You should set a high set of standards first as to what kind of person you are looking for in order to build a good future. Maybe you want a person who is family oriented, God-fearing, ambitious and so on. Don't settle for less if you want the best outcome.

A lot of couple fell into the stigma of being in a wrong relationship and fail to build a good future because in the first place, they fail to set what they really want in life, who they really want to be with and at what definite time.